Fever, Frontal Headache in a Young Child

 Fever, Frontal Headache in a Young Child - Conflict situation that I don't know how to get out of + Conflict attack from the front

August 2016:

Proof of how much harm an adult can do to a child, out of too much affection and kindness, but lack of attention to what he wants to say...here it is: today at lunch I was coming with the little one from the kindergarten together with his grandmother.

The little one was fussy because he was sleepy, he was making noises that he wanted to be in my arms, he was crying incessantly.

I knew he was sleepy. I left him alone to walk next to us, so with a song because my back was not holding me back to carry him in my arms. I explained to him that my back hurts, that I can't carry him in my arms up the hill 100 meters to the house and I continued walking next to him knowing that I was putting him home to sleep and he calmed down because that's all he really wanted.

His grandmother wouldn't let him take him in her arms. She insisted even though the child didn't want to be in her arms. At one point she picked him up even though the child was screaming loudly "No! No! No!" and struggling to get to her in her arms. She carried him about 50 meters in her arms, then I picked him up.

We got home, I put him to sleep and about an hour and a half later he woke up nervous, crying, with a moderate fever and a little tired. In addition, he was complaining that his head hurt in the forehead area. Knowing that a fever means "I want to get out of this situation where I don't feel safe" I thought that only his grandmother was upset when she took him by force in her arms even though he was screaming No and struggling.

I explained to him nicely that she wouldn't take him anymore, I held him in my arms until we left because we were getting ready to go home anyway. I gave him a Bach Rescue Remedy which he refused and I didn't insist. Generally children feel when they does he need something or not?

On the way, his fever went away about 30 minutes after leaving and he fell asleep in the car for about an hour. When he woke up, he was hungry and I wanted to give him a bag of cookies from his grandmother. His head had gone too. He asked me where I got them and when I told him they were from her he started screaming and gave them back to me. Proof that my intuition about the fever had been correct. His father bought him some more cookies from a gas station which he devoured immediately. He didn't want to touch the ones from his grandmother.

When I got home, I explained to his grandmother what had happened and I wanted to give him a call to make peace with her. She didn't even want to hear it.

You can find the explanation for the fever above, the one for frontal headache = frontal attack, the child he felt attacked from the front.

So, mothers, pay attention to what your child wants to tell you, listen to your instincts and don't immediately run to the medicine. The fever lasted a maximum of an hour and passed quite quickly after I talked to the child and explained to him that his grandmother would not force him into her arms anymore. No paracetamol or other chemicals.

Thank you, Dr. Hamer!